Feb. 13, 2026
Men Are No Longer Men
Dr. Gilda joins us to discuss how young men today are being stripped of their masculinity through cultural brainswashing, and why this is a very dangerous turn in civilization.
"We need our men to be strong, not weak," says Dr. Gilda, who has written extensively on the matter.
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I think about 10 times a day, I
must say, you know, when I was a
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kid and and that was every day,
it gets longer and longer.
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Welcome back to America today,
Jim Watkins.
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I am.
You may be my biggest celebrity
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doctor Gilda.
Dr. Gilda Carl is with me.
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Yeah, she's, she's the author of
Real Men Don't Go Woke.
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She has appeared on most TV talk
shows, news shows.
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She's was the host of Fox's
Doctor Gilda TV show, Also MTV
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Love Doc, some of you might
remember that, and various
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television shows on the Trinity
Broadcasting Network, as well as
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the 32nd Therapist column for
the Today Show and the Ask
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Doctor Gilda column in the
National Enquirer.
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So it's good to have you.
And your book is called Real Men
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Don't Go Woke, which is a great
title, but it's actually
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actually a very serious issue in
our culture today because I read
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a great article and I read more
of them about how men have been
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stripped of their toxic
masculinity.
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And part of this is because of
the way schools raise our kids
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and they put them on drugs when
they start acting like boys And
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and I began noticing in culture
Doctor Gilda that maybe 20 years
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ago they started to portray
older white men as being stupid
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kind of like, you know, on
what's that show the Fox cartoon
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with the little kid.
I forget you know the guy
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anyway, characters in like a
family comedies.
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And I said to my wife back then,
I said, does it seem to you that
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they're trying to make men look
less manly?
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And so tell us about your book
and what prompted you to write
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it in a little bit about.
What's in it?
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Well, traditionally this is my
19th book, so I've been around
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the block a few times and I was
published by the big publishers
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at the very beginning.
Did very well.
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Got $1,000,000 book contract for
my first book because of my
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celebrity on television.
And I was just going fine until
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I started working with the big
publishers and I saw how
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controlling they wanted to be
about the content, the content
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less than about the cover art
and the things that would
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display what I was talking
about.
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So we ran into some problems and
then I started publishing with
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Amazon.
I thought that was a better
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idea, but then they had this
brilliant idea.
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I had one of my books was called
is called Don't Lie on Your Back
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for a guy who doesn't have
yours.
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It's for young women.
It was an offshoot of when in
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the days that I was the love doc
on MTV.
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And I thought, OK, this is a new
concept.
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You want to find men who have
your back.
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But as time went on, these young
women are writing to me and
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talking to me and saying I, I,
I, you know, I've been doing
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everything for this guy.
And then he dumped me anyway.
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And I said, well, maybe that's
the problem.
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Well, then I started looking at
the advice.
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I was doling out all these women
and all these books, these
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health self help books.
And I said, you know, I'm asking
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them to find men who have their
backs.
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But we have a problem here.
Men don't have their own backs.
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So how could they give that
which they do not have?
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So I thought, OK, now what do I
do?
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And I prayed and I meditated and
I got this answer.
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You have to write a book for
men.
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And I kept hearing what the
publishers were telling me.
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Men don't read self help books.
Well, I said this is not going
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to be a self help book.
This is going to be an
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explanatory situation depicting
what has really happened to men
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in our society, because all I'm
hearing from now from women is
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how can I find a real man?
Well, good luck, Because what
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has happened is that men wake up
in the morning and they're
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automatically told that they're
toxic just for having a penis.
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You're toxic and they don't know
what to do with that.
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So many of them, with the help
of our cultural radical
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feminists, are switching to the
opposite side.
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You know, the pendulum goes from
one extreme to another until the
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finest modicum.
But they go to the opposite
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side, and they become what we
now call woke.
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And that means they lose their
sense of masculinity, their
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voice, their spine, their
willingness to speak up.
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And women are telling me the
guys don't speak.
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My husband doesn't speak.
He doesn't give me his real
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opinion on anything.
And this is more.
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Yeah, we know why that.
Is, well, we sure do know why
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that is, because if he does,
he's put down, he's cut off,
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he's cancelled and he's
castrated.
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So what smart man is going to
say anything and gets fired from
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his job and gets fired from his
marriage so he shuts?
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Up.
Yeah.
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Or banished from the.
Living room Well, well, it's
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funny you should say that
because I, I made a list of some
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of the feelings that today's men
are feeling as a result of this
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whole woke culture having taken,
well, I won't say taken over,
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but it, it's trying very hard to
be prominence in their lives.
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Men are feeling wounded, wounded
and banished and shamed and
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unneeded and angry.
Now anger is the only thing men
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are allowed to show.
So when they get carried away
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with their anger, then they
become really toxic.
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The whole setup.
It's, it's just that it is a
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setup for men to shut up and go
away.
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And if you listen to some of the
radical feminists, this is what
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they want to happen.
There's a problem, though.
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We have, oh, I don't know, maybe
in 11,000,000 years, the climate
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people are telling us there's
not going to be any planet left.
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Well, guess what?
In 11,000,000 years, with the
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decrease in testosterone, with
the thinning out of the Y
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chromosome, with the depression,
with the loneliness and with
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everything else that is
happening, there won't be any
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men around anymore.
Look what is happening,
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happening to our young boys.
And all of this is researched
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thoroughly and in this book.
These guys, these boys are
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coming home from school if they
go to school and sitting in
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their parents basement or in
their bedrooms and smoking grass
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or vaping or and then on on porn
and it totally dropped out.
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They're not interested in
finding a job.
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They don't have any goals they
have don't have any life
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aspirations and they're just
dead.
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And these are young boys.
And now we're finding young boys
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10 and up are committing
suicide.
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What in a boy's life at 10 is is
pushing him to commit suicide?
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Yeah.
The bullying that the schools
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aren't doing anything about that
Some some boys have written in
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their notes, in their suicide
notes.
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OK.
I just want to end this all.
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I don't want to do this anymore.
I've been bullied, and nobody's
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been helping me.
One of the problems, however, is
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that boys won't speak up.
Just like men, they remain
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silent and so parents don't have
any idea what is going on with
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them.
This is such a serious issue.
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If you just tuned in, we're
talking to Doctor Gilda.
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Gilda Carl, her new book is
called Real Men Don't Go Woke,
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and it's what we're talking
about here.
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We're going to take a quick
break and then we'll come right
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back.
And then I want to talk more
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about the AI element now,
because that's changing the
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elements of relationships and
texting and social media.
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And those are those are areas I
think also where we need to talk
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about that.
O you hang on.
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We'll get right back here on
America TODAY with yours truly,
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Jim Watkins.
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This is such an important
conversation because we see it
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happening in front of us and
it's not even in slow motion.
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It's in real time.
Men have become disenfranchised.
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Young boys are growing up in a
society where they feel they're
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not needed.
And all the gaslighting, all of
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the toxic masculinity, not to
mention the the drugs that they
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give young boys to sedate them
and change their mental
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circuitry.
It's disgusting, frankly.
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And we're talking to somebody
who knows a thing or two about
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it.
Doctor Gilda Carl has joined us.
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She's a PhD and you might
remember for it's been on, gosh,
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a dozen television shows.
She's written a 30 books and her
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new book is called Real Men
Don't Go Woke.
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So let's talk about the
influence of social media.
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How has that changed the
dynamic?
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When we were young and we got
into our first loving
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relationship and we had that
girl crush.
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It was also romantic and
dramatic.
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I mean, I think that carried me
through high school, really
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falling in love with all these
pretty girls.
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But I don't think it's that way.
I think today boys are stuffed.
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They're told to stuff their
feelings.
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They're distracted by the
Internet.
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How is the dynamic from your
perspective, change between
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young men and young young women?
Well, first of all, men are not
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asking women out.
Women are still of well, they,
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they, they've been raised by
parents who are older and they
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know that a guy should be asking
a woman out.
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So what has happened is that the
woman asks the man out.
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But it's human nature.
I, you know, I haven't written
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30 books, Jim, only 19.
This is my 19.
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But thank you.
We're on our way.
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What I find again and again and
again, doing all the research I
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do for every single book, is
that it's constantly the same.
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Women want to wear the pants and
then women are upset when the
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guy takes a back seat because
the women are then saying, he
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doesn't even tell me what he
wants.
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He doesn't even ask me out.
He doesn't even say, let's have
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dinner.
I'm going to provide a fabulous
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romantic weekend for us.
No, he's not taking the lead
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because she has cut the cord of
him and that's the horrible part
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of all of this.
It sounds to me like the the
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women today and and this has
been going on generationally
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since at least the 50s when
feminine power and I am I am
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woman hear me roar.
It sounds like they want the
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best of both worlds in many
respects, and they've come.
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To expect it.
You said it.
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That's exactly, you know what
women want, question mark.
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They don't know.
They don't know what the heck
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they want.
They come to me and they say,
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well, I can't find a man.
The men come to me and they say
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she won't listen to me, she
won't hear me.
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Men need to be heard.
Men need to be thought of as a
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contributing partner.
But men think that they're not
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needed to be a partner or
anything else.
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And as a result of that, they
just say, well, I'm going to
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just just shut up.
And what do they do?
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Oh, they find some other cute
young thing and they run around
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with her.
Is that as though that is the
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answer?
It's just a Band-Aid.
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It is not helping the situation.
It's not changing the situation.
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And the boys that these men are
raising see what's going on.
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They don't want any part of it.
So we're finding more and more
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young men are saying, I don't
want to get married, I don't
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want to have a family.
And this is all applauded by the
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radical feminists who say you
don't need a man.
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Well, I beg to differ with them.
We need men, and one of the
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reasons that I wrote this book
is because we need men.
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You know, I became a
spokesperson for the
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International Council of Men and
Boys.
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Wonderful organization and they
were so thrilled to have me
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because suddenly there's a woman
speaking on behalf of men,
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whereas it's always, it has been
men speaking up for men, but now
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it's from the woman's
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We see what is going on and we
don't like it.
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You take the people in the news.
Now I have written also for the
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tabloids, so I am always looking
at the people in the news.
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Belichick, For example, Bill
Belichick was one of the
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greatest coaches in NFL history.
He.
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Was from yes, focused
discipline, stoic.
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it took a full year for him to
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say, whoa, what am I going to
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But he re situated himself as a
head coach of the University of
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North Carolina, the Tar Heels.
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maybe he got tired, as tired as
these alpha men get after they
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have put in a hard day and run
the company and and gotten the
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stock prices to be soaring and
they're tired and they apply
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coming home and they say, wait a
minute, I don't want to be in
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control.
They want a dominatrix.
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to just take care of them.
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And it's sad, isn't it?
And well, it's acting out in a
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different way because they
don't, they're exhausted.
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One man said to me, I'm an alpha
all day long.
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He's a physician.
I'm an alpha all day long.
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But you know, and I hate to even
admit this, sometimes I have to
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be a a beta or a gamma.
I said that is normal because
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you can't sustain A monotone
existence of any kind.
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And this drive to be an alpha
male has contributed to men
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feeling tired and exhausted and
sometimes quite angry as they
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see their women, if they get
divorced, especially their
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women, say, shell out all this
money and then they can't afford
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to do all the things that they
used to do.
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And the woman is living OK and
they're not.
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A lot of men are not doing OK
after they get divorced, not
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even to mention the emotional
drain on them.
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And because men will not ask for
help, there they are.
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Let me ask you, I want to get on
to a couple of other things
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because our time is short.
Talk to me about the We talked
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about the nature of young
people's relationships, how
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those have changed.
Do you have you given much
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thought to artificial
intelligence in this new
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algorithm where you develop a
relationship?
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In fact, in in I think Florida
recently, a young man was having
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a relationship with an online
bot and that bot convinced him
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to kill himself, which he did.
And now the Google and and Meta
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are being sued because of it.
Do you see the road down of a
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little ways and what's?
Going to start happening.
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This is this is so frightening.
How about the how about the
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woman who decided to marry a bot
and she went to a dinner with a
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whole bunch of them who were
married to bots.
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out so badly after her divorce
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and in her marriage and then
after her divorce, she couldn't
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find anybody and she figured,
OK, this is what I'm going to
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do.
So she got this bot.
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parts of our community.
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The whole civilization has kind
of cycled downward.
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It's all in the book.
I talk about that and how people
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think that having a sex doll,
having a bot, having an
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inanimate object is as good as
sleeping next real life person.
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Talking about the day and the
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problems and the interactions of
other people.
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What is that that's suggesting?
A need for total control.
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So whether it's a man or a woman
has decided that it's it's it's
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a bot that he or she wants, that
is not the answer.
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The answer is to communicate
with the person you're with, or
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at least attract a real life
person.
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And yes, life has this.
This institutes what made
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anybody believe believe that we
live in such a plastic life that
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everything can be corrected with
either plastic surgery or
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plastic dolls.
It's such a interesting point.
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I want to encourage people to
get the book again.
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Our guest for this segment is
Doctor Gilda Carl, and her book
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is called Real Men Don't Go
Woke.
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when you listen to what she's
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If we don't reverse.
Of course, Dr. Gilder, our time
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Yeah, and, and I want to have
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you back.
There's all these issues that
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keep coming up, so we'll have
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Oh, thank you.
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But thank you.
OK, I'd love to.
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Yeah, once again.
Thank you, Jen.
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You're it's a pleasure.
Real, real pleasure.
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Doctor Gilda Carl, PhD, famous
on TV, writes columns and now
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her new book, Real Men Don't Go
Woke and America Today
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I think about 10 times a day, I
must say, you know, when I was a
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kid and and that was every day,
it gets longer and longer.
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Welcome back to America today,
Jim Watkins.
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I am.
You may be my biggest celebrity
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doctor Gilda.
Dr. Gilda Carl is with me.
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Yeah, she's, she's the author of
Real Men Don't Go Woke.
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She has appeared on most TV talk
shows, news shows.
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She's was the host of Fox's
Doctor Gilda TV show, Also MTV
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Love Doc, some of you might
remember that, and various
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television shows on the Trinity
Broadcasting Network, as well as
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the 32nd Therapist column for
the Today Show and the Ask
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Doctor Gilda column in the
National Enquirer.
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So it's good to have you.
And your book is called Real Men
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Don't Go Woke, which is a great
title, but it's actually
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actually a very serious issue in
our culture today because I read
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a great article and I read more
of them about how men have been
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stripped of their toxic
masculinity.
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And part of this is because of
the way schools raise our kids
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and they put them on drugs when
they start acting like boys And
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and I began noticing in culture
Doctor Gilda that maybe 20 years
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ago they started to portray
older white men as being stupid
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kind of like, you know, on
what's that show the Fox cartoon
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with the little kid.
I forget you know the guy
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anyway, characters in like a
family comedies.
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And I said to my wife back then,
I said, does it seem to you that
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they're trying to make men look
less manly?
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And so tell us about your book
and what prompted you to write
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it in a little bit about.
What's in it?
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Well, traditionally this is my
19th book, so I've been around
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the block a few times and I was
published by the big publishers
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at the very beginning.
Did very well.
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Got $1,000,000 book contract for
my first book because of my
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celebrity on television.
And I was just going fine until
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I started working with the big
publishers and I saw how
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controlling they wanted to be
about the content, the content
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less than about the cover art
and the things that would
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display what I was talking
about.
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So we ran into some problems and
then I started publishing with
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Amazon.
I thought that was a better
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idea, but then they had this
brilliant idea.
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I had one of my books was called
is called Don't Lie on Your Back
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for a guy who doesn't have
yours.
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It's for young women.
It was an offshoot of when in
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the days that I was the love doc
on MTV.
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And I thought, OK, this is a new
concept.
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You want to find men who have
your back.
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But as time went on, these young
women are writing to me and
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talking to me and saying I, I,
I, you know, I've been doing
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everything for this guy.
And then he dumped me anyway.
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And I said, well, maybe that's
the problem.
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Well, then I started looking at
the advice.
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I was doling out all these women
and all these books, these
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health self help books.
And I said, you know, I'm asking
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them to find men who have their
backs.
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But we have a problem here.
Men don't have their own backs.
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So how could they give that
which they do not have?
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So I thought, OK, now what do I
do?
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And I prayed and I meditated and
I got this answer.
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You have to write a book for
men.
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And I kept hearing what the
publishers were telling me.
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Men don't read self help books.
Well, I said this is not going
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to be a self help book.
This is going to be an
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explanatory situation depicting
what has really happened to men
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in our society, because all I'm
hearing from now from women is
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how can I find a real man?
Well, good luck, Because what
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has happened is that men wake up
in the morning and they're
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automatically told that they're
toxic just for having a penis.
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You're toxic and they don't know
what to do with that.
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So many of them, with the help
of our cultural radical
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feminists, are switching to the
opposite side.
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You know, the pendulum goes from
one extreme to another until the
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finest modicum.
But they go to the opposite
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side, and they become what we
now call woke.
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And that means they lose their
sense of masculinity, their
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voice, their spine, their
willingness to speak up.
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And women are telling me the
guys don't speak.
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My husband doesn't speak.
He doesn't give me his real
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opinion on anything.
And this is more.
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Yeah, we know why that.
Is, well, we sure do know why
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that is, because if he does,
he's put down, he's cut off,
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he's cancelled and he's
castrated.
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So what smart man is going to
say anything and gets fired from
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his job and gets fired from his
marriage so he shuts?
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Up.
Yeah.
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Or banished from the.
Living room Well, well, it's
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funny you should say that
because I, I made a list of some
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of the feelings that today's men
are feeling as a result of this
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whole woke culture having taken,
well, I won't say taken over,
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but it, it's trying very hard to
be prominence in their lives.
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Men are feeling wounded, wounded
and banished and shamed and
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unneeded and angry.
Now anger is the only thing men
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are allowed to show.
So when they get carried away
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with their anger, then they
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The whole setup.
It's, it's just that it is a
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setup for men to shut up and go
away.
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And if you listen to some of the
radical feminists, this is what
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they want to happen.
There's a problem, though.
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We have, oh, I don't know, maybe
in 11,000,000 years, the climate
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people are telling us there's
not going to be any planet left.
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Well, guess what?
In 11,000,000 years, with the
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decrease in testosterone, with
the thinning out of the Y
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chromosome, with the depression,
with the loneliness and with
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everything else that is
happening, there won't be any
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men around anymore.
Look what is happening,
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happening to our young boys.
And all of this is researched
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thoroughly and in this book.
These guys, these boys are
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coming home from school if they
go to school and sitting in
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their parents basement or in
their bedrooms and smoking grass
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or vaping or and then on on porn
and it totally dropped out.
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They're not interested in
finding a job.
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They don't have any goals they
have don't have any life
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aspirations and they're just
dead.
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And these are young boys.
And now we're finding young boys
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10 and up are committing
suicide.
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What in a boy's life at 10 is is
pushing him to commit suicide?
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Yeah.
The bullying that the schools
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aren't doing anything about that
Some some boys have written in
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their notes, in their suicide
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I just want to end this all.
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I don't want to do this anymore.
I've been bullied, and nobody's
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been helping me.
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that boys won't speak up.
Just like men, they remain
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silent and so parents don't have
any idea what is going on with
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them.
This is such a serious issue.
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If you just tuned in, we're
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Gilda Carl, her new book is
called Real Men Don't Go Woke,
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and it's what we're talking
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back.
And then I want to talk more
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about the AI element now,
because that's changing the
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elements of relationships and
texting and social media.
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think also where we need to talk
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about that.
O you hang on.
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We'll get right back here on
America TODAY with yours truly,
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Jim Watkins.
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This is such an important
conversation because we see it
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happening in front of us and
it's not even in slow motion.
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It's in real time.
Men have become disenfranchised.
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Young boys are growing up in a
society where they feel they're
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not needed.
And all the gaslighting, all of
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the toxic masculinity, not to
mention the the drugs that they
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give young boys to sedate them
and change their mental
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circuitry.
It's disgusting, frankly.
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And we're talking to somebody
who knows a thing or two about
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it.
Doctor Gilda Carl has joined us.
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She's a PhD and you might
remember for it's been on, gosh,
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a dozen television shows.
She's written a 30 books and her
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new book is called Real Men
Don't Go Woke.
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So let's talk about the
influence of social media.
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How has that changed the
dynamic?
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When we were young and we got
into our first loving
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relationship and we had that
girl crush.
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It was also romantic and
dramatic.
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I mean, I think that carried me
through high school, really
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falling in love with all these
pretty girls.
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But I don't think it's that way.
I think today boys are stuffed.
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They're told to stuff their
feelings.
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They're distracted by the
Internet.
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How is the dynamic from your
perspective, change between
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young men and young young women?
Well, first of all, men are not
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asking women out.
Women are still of well, they,
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they, they've been raised by
parents who are older and they
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know that a guy should be asking
a woman out.
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So what has happened is that the
woman asks the man out.
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But it's human nature.
I, you know, I haven't written
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30 books, Jim, only 19.
This is my 19.
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But thank you.
We're on our way.
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What I find again and again and
again, doing all the research I
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do for every single book, is
that it's constantly the same.
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Women want to wear the pants and
then women are upset when the
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guy takes a back seat because
the women are then saying, he
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doesn't even tell me what he
wants.
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He doesn't even ask me out.
He doesn't even say, let's have
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dinner.
I'm going to provide a fabulous
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romantic weekend for us.
No, he's not taking the lead
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because she has cut the cord of
him and that's the horrible part
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of all of this.
It sounds to me like the the
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women today and and this has
been going on generationally
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since at least the 50s when
feminine power and I am I am
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woman hear me roar.
It sounds like they want the
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best of both worlds in many
respects, and they've come.
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To expect it.
You said it.
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That's exactly, you know what
women want, question mark.
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They don't know.
They don't know what the heck
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they want.
They come to me and they say,
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well, I can't find a man.
The men come to me and they say
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she won't listen to me, she
won't hear me.
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Men need to be heard.
Men need to be thought of as a
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contributing partner.
But men think that they're not
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needed to be a partner or
anything else.
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And as a result of that, they
just say, well, I'm going to
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just just shut up.
And what do they do?
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Oh, they find some other cute
young thing and they run around
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with her.
Is that as though that is the
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answer?
It's just a Band-Aid.
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It is not helping the situation.
It's not changing the situation.
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And the boys that these men are
raising see what's going on.
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They don't want any part of it.
So we're finding more and more
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young men are saying, I don't
want to get married, I don't
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want to have a family.
And this is all applauded by the
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radical feminists who say you
don't need a man.
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Well, I beg to differ with them.
We need men, and one of the
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reasons that I wrote this book
is because we need men.
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You know, I became a
spokesperson for the
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International Council of Men and
Boys.
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Wonderful organization and they
were so thrilled to have me
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because suddenly there's a woman
speaking on behalf of men,
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whereas it's always, it has been
men speaking up for men, but now
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it's from the woman's
perspective.
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We see what is going on and we
don't like it.
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You take the people in the news.
Now I have written also for the
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tabloids, so I am always looking
at the people in the news.
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Belichick, For example, Bill
Belichick was one of the
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greatest coaches in NFL history.
He.
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Was from yes, focused
discipline, stoic.
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And then he was pushed out and
it took a full year for him to
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say, whoa, what am I going to
do?
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But he re situated himself as a
head coach of the University of
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North Carolina, the Tar Heels.
But what has happened is that
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maybe he got tired, as tired as
these alpha men get after they
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have put in a hard day and run
the company and and gotten the
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stock prices to be soaring and
they're tired and they apply
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coming home and they say, wait a
minute, I don't want to be in
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control.
They want a dominatrix.
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And so they choose a dominatrix
to just take care of them.
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And it's sad, isn't it?
And well, it's acting out in a
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different way because they
don't, they're exhausted.
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One man said to me, I'm an alpha
all day long.
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He's a physician.
I'm an alpha all day long.
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But you know, and I hate to even
admit this, sometimes I have to
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be a a beta or a gamma.
I said that is normal because
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you can't sustain A monotone
existence of any kind.
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And this drive to be an alpha
male has contributed to men
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feeling tired and exhausted and
sometimes quite angry as they
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see their women, if they get
divorced, especially their
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women, say, shell out all this
money and then they can't afford
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to do all the things that they
used to do.
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And the woman is living OK and
they're not.
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A lot of men are not doing OK
after they get divorced, not
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even to mention the emotional
drain on them.
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And because men will not ask for
help, there they are.
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Let me ask you, I want to get on
to a couple of other things
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because our time is short.
Talk to me about the We talked
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about the nature of young
people's relationships, how
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those have changed.
Do you have you given much
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thought to artificial
intelligence in this new
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algorithm where you develop a
relationship?
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In fact, in in I think Florida
recently, a young man was having
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a relationship with an online
bot and that bot convinced him
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to kill himself, which he did.
And now the Google and and Meta
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are being sued because of it.
Do you see the road down of a
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little ways and what's?
Going to start happening.
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This is this is so frightening.
How about the how about the
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woman who decided to marry a bot
and she went to a dinner with a
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whole bunch of them who were
married to bots.
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And this woman had had struck
out so badly after her divorce
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and in her marriage and then
after her divorce, she couldn't
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find anybody and she figured,
OK, this is what I'm going to
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do.
So she got this bot.
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And that's not unusual with some
parts of our community.
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The whole civilization has kind
of cycled downward.
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It's all in the book.
I talk about that and how people
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think that having a sex doll,
having a bot, having an
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inanimate object is as good as
sleeping next real life person.
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And.
Talking about the day and the
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problems and the interactions of
other people.
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What is that that's suggesting?
A need for total control.
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So whether it's a man or a woman
has decided that it's it's it's
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a bot that he or she wants, that
is not the answer.
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The answer is to communicate
with the person you're with, or
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at least attract a real life
person.
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And yes, life has this.
This institutes what made
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anybody believe believe that we
live in such a plastic life that
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everything can be corrected with
either plastic surgery or
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plastic dolls.
It's such a interesting point.
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I want to encourage people to
get the book again.
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Our guest for this segment is
Doctor Gilda Carl, and her book
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is called Real Men Don't Go
Woke.
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It's a funny title and it's get
a little chuckle out of it, but
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when you listen to what she's
talking about, this is serious.
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We're talking about societal
extinction.
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If we don't reverse.
Of course, Dr. Gilder, our time
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is short.
Yeah, and, and I want to have
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you back.
There's all these issues that
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keep coming up, so we'll have
plenty of fodder.
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Oh, thank you.
Yeah.
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But thank you.
OK, I'd love to.
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Yeah, once again.
Thank you, Jen.
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You're it's a pleasure.
Real, real pleasure.
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Doctor Gilda Carl, PhD, famous
on TV, writes columns and now
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her new book, Real Men Don't Go
Woke and America Today
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continues.
